On never being loved

I will never be loved by someone who chooses to do so. I guess my family loves me, but that's just because they have to, or maybe because they have invested so much of their time and money to raise me, so they can't do otherwise. My brothers and sisters love me, but that is because God tells them to do so, not because they choose to. I wonder what it's like for someone to love you because they like you most, of all the people they know. That must feel good. In time, I really have to put down all the fantasies that someone will ever choose to love me, ever. Or that I could ever be someone's favourite or most important person. I genuinely do not believe that will ever happen and that hurts. I'm always going to be alone and I have to get in terms with that. I'm not pretty enough for anyone and I'm fat. I'm never going to be a priority and I have to get used to that.
It's never going to get better.

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  1. Janice and poppy15/6/22 20:10

    To reply to
    Never being loved
    Yes they do have a choice.
    Trust me no one has to love you. They could easily not love you.
    I thought mine lived me.
    I lived my dad because I felt I had to forgive him for my abuse as he was was dad. They pretended to love me to I feel to keep me silent.
    When you say they love me because they have to, trust me no one has to love you. So maybe look at how your thinking about this or looking at it . It doesn't matter what they have done for you, if they didn't live you without an ulterior motive they wouldn't have to live you.
    So just maybe they do v

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